Online Support for Women in PA & NJ
Untangle the mother wound.
Quiet the spiral.
Come back to yourself.
Therapy for anxiety, people-pleasing, boundaries, and mother-daughter patterns.
Coaching for recovering people pleasers and those ready to move forward.
I help women ditch people-pleasing, quiet overthinking, and finally build boundaries that feel empowering, not guilt-inducing.
Together we will address the struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, or codependent patterns, especially those carrying the weight of mother-daughter dynamics.
The Mother Wound You love her. You're also exhausted by her. Both are true, and neither one makes you a bad daughter.
Eldest Daughter You're everyone's emergency contact. Name yours. Take your time, I'll wait.
People Pleasing The yes is out of your mouth before you've decided anything. The resentment shows up on schedule.
Boundary Setting You rehearsed it in the shower. Then you said "sure, no problem!" and walked away furious.
Perfectionism Done never feels done. The bar moves the second you touch it.
Imposter Syndrome Your résumé says expert. Your inner monologue says fraud. One of them is lying.
Guilt & Shame Guilt says you did something wrong. Shame says you are something wrong. Only one of those is fixable with an apology.
Attachment Different name, different face, same ending. The pattern isn't bad luck — it's a blueprint.
Anxiety Every decision second-guessed. Every conversation replayed. Every quiet moment hijacked.
Saw yourself in more than one? Normal. They overlap, they trade shifts, they carpool. Pick whichever one stung most and start reading.
So if you’re tired of…
✘ Feeling afraid to become a bigger, better version of yourself
✘ Desperately wanting to be liked
✘ Just going through the motions of your life but not really feeling connected to anything
✘ Chronically doubting yourself and feeling like you aren’t good enough
✘ Thinking you’re a shitty person
✘ Harboring resentment because your family didn’t/doesn’t accept you
✘ Being stuck in your own head
✘ Running away from your feelings
✘ Anxiety controlling your life
And you’re ready to…
✔︎ Become the person you’re meant to be
✔︎ Be happy with who you are
✔︎ Live with intention
✔︎ Believe in yourself and challenge negative self-talk
✔︎ Actually love yourself and be proud of who you are
✔︎ Shed the need for approval
✔︎ Connect with your body and let feelings move through you
✔︎ Witness your pain, grief, and shame
✔︎ Build a toolbox so you can move through your struggles with confidence
Stop screaming into the void.
Let’s teach you to be hearable by listening to you.
The four who keep walking through my virtual door
The Recovering People-Pleaser. She learned her needs were negotiable and everyone else's were federal law. She can spot the pattern in someone else in five seconds flat and still can't get a clean "no" out when Mom asks for a favor. → People Pleasing · Boundary Setting
The Good Daughter. She did everything right, achieved everything expected, and still feels like it was never quite enough — because the goalposts were never about achievement. They were on wheels. → The Mother Wound · Perfectionism
The Strong Friend. She became everyone's emotional support because nobody was hers. Three group chats open at all times. Makes a joke when someone asks how she actually is. → Eldest Daughter · Attachment
The High-Functioning One. She learned early that falling apart wasn't on the menu. The bloodwork is great. The 9pm jaw clench begs to differ. → Imposter Syndrome · Guilt & Shame
They're all the same underlying adaptation wearing different outfits: learning to survive a relationship that was supposed to feel safe, and didn't always.
Hi. I’m Jaclyn Borgia.
I’m the Chief Sass Officer behind The Sassy Shrink.
I began Sassy when I got tired of working for the man and decided to do my own thing. I never pictured myself to be a boss, to own something, and yet here I am, doing the thing.
And I want that for you, too. I want you to wake up every day and know that YOU ARE WORTHY. You are miraculous. You are a goddamned vision. You don’t need to shrink yourself down in order to make other people more comfortable. You deserve to be the biggest, baddest, badass version of yourself. And you deserve to feel worthy enough to dream big.
Here are the main things I help my online therapy clients with:
➜ Mother wound, mother/daughter dynamics, reparenting the self
➜ Self-worth, confidence, self-trust, self-love and radical acceptance
➜ Anxiety, imposter syndrome, perfectionism, being enough
➜ Repairing attachment, setting boundaries, becoming the authority on you
➜ Eldest daughter syndrome and the exhaustion of being everyone's reliable one
➜ People-pleasing and the resentment that comes with it
Nodding along? Sound like you?
Three ways to work with me
Online Therapy — Pennsylvania & New Jersey Weekly-ish, one-on-one, licensed clinical work. This is where we go to the root: the mother wound, the shame, the attachment blueprint, the nervous system that's been braced since childhood. $200 per session, with packages up to 20% off. Free consult first, always.
Online Coaching — anywhere in the world For the woman who's already done the therapy. You know your patterns. You have the vocabulary. You're still running the old plays. That's not a knowledge problem, it's an integration problem — the gap between what you know and what your nervous system actually believes. Voxer access on weekdays so we're working the 9:47am email and the 11:30pm rehearsal, not just Tuesday at 2pm. Two tiers, three-month minimum, application first.
ESA Letter A legitimate clinical assessment for an emotional support animal letter — not a $29 certificate mill.
Not sure which? Rough rule: therapy digs, coaching integrates. If you're in active crisis or you want a slower pace and more time in the past, that's therapy. If you know exactly why you do the thing and you're sick of doing it anyway, that's coaching. If you're in PA or NJ and still can't tell, book the free consult and I'll tell you straight.