You could give a TED talk on self-care. You've told your sister to rest. You've told your friend to set the boundary. You've told your kid to drink some water and go outside.
Your own version is a bath you keep meaning to take and a low hum of guilt that you're somehow failing at the one thing that's supposed to be relaxing.
That's not a discipline problem. "Take care of yourself" is a vague instruction, and vague instructions are impossible to succeed at — which means they're very easy to feel bad about. So here's a plan instead. One small thing a day, thirty days, built on the eight types of self-care and modeled after Maslow's hierarchy of needs. No willpower required, and nothing to earn first.
What's inside:
30 daily activities, one per day, each with the reason behind it — because you're more likely to do a thing when you know why it works
All 8 types of self-care: physical, emotional, mental, social, digital, professional, practical, and spiritual
The unsexy ones nobody puts on a self-care list — review your benefits, make a budget, schedule the appointment you've been avoiding since spring. Peace of mind is self-care, even when it isn't cute.
The tender ones too: sit with your feelings for ten minutes without asking why. Look in the mirror and give yourself three compliments out loud, as deeply weird as that will feel.
Day 18 is practicing "no." That placement is on purpose.
Fill-in pages for your gratitude list, your bucket list, and those three compliments
A tip for the socially anxious on reach-out-to-a-friend day, because "just call someone" has never once been useful advice
Three Sassy Meditations linked right in — 2-minute breath awareness, 2-minute grounding, and 6-minute stress relief
A bonus Day 31 to reflect on what actually worked for you, plus an "I'm done, what now?" page so this doesn't fall off a cliff on day 31
A one-page calendar of all 30 days, printable, fridge-ready
Do it in order, or flip to whatever day you need. There's no wrong way to use it and nobody's grading you.
Who it's for: the woman who is fluent in everyone else's needs and vague on her own. Recovering people pleasers, eldest daughters, and anyone who has been waiting to earn her rest.
$0. Instant PDF download. 30 days, 8 types of self-care, and zero requirement to be good at it.
You could give a TED talk on self-care. You've told your sister to rest. You've told your friend to set the boundary. You've told your kid to drink some water and go outside.
Your own version is a bath you keep meaning to take and a low hum of guilt that you're somehow failing at the one thing that's supposed to be relaxing.
That's not a discipline problem. "Take care of yourself" is a vague instruction, and vague instructions are impossible to succeed at — which means they're very easy to feel bad about. So here's a plan instead. One small thing a day, thirty days, built on the eight types of self-care and modeled after Maslow's hierarchy of needs. No willpower required, and nothing to earn first.
What's inside:
30 daily activities, one per day, each with the reason behind it — because you're more likely to do a thing when you know why it works
All 8 types of self-care: physical, emotional, mental, social, digital, professional, practical, and spiritual
The unsexy ones nobody puts on a self-care list — review your benefits, make a budget, schedule the appointment you've been avoiding since spring. Peace of mind is self-care, even when it isn't cute.
The tender ones too: sit with your feelings for ten minutes without asking why. Look in the mirror and give yourself three compliments out loud, as deeply weird as that will feel.
Day 18 is practicing "no." That placement is on purpose.
Fill-in pages for your gratitude list, your bucket list, and those three compliments
A tip for the socially anxious on reach-out-to-a-friend day, because "just call someone" has never once been useful advice
Three Sassy Meditations linked right in — 2-minute breath awareness, 2-minute grounding, and 6-minute stress relief
A bonus Day 31 to reflect on what actually worked for you, plus an "I'm done, what now?" page so this doesn't fall off a cliff on day 31
A one-page calendar of all 30 days, printable, fridge-ready
Do it in order, or flip to whatever day you need. There's no wrong way to use it and nobody's grading you.
Who it's for: the woman who is fluent in everyone else's needs and vague on her own. Recovering people pleasers, eldest daughters, and anyone who has been waiting to earn her rest.
$0. Instant PDF download. 30 days, 8 types of self-care, and zero requirement to be good at it.
