You've been bending yourself into shapes to keep other people comfortable. Your nervous system treats certain people like emergencies. You've said yes for so long you can't remember what your no even feels like.
30 Days of Boundaries is a guided, day-by-day ebook for women navigating complicated relationships, anxious attachment, and life on the other side of people-pleasing. Thirty days, one at a time. Each day gives you a short read, two journal prompts, and a piece of Homeplay — because insight doesn't become power sitting on the page. It becomes power when you try it.
The journey moves in four weeks: first you learn to hear your own voice again, then you get the actual anatomy of a boundary (what it is, what it isn't, how to build one), then you take it into the complicated relationships — the ones you can't just walk away from — and finally you become the heard woman, the one whose no means no and whose yes means something.
This isn't a program about becoming someone else. It's about hearing yourself again, setting the record straight on a few old stories, and building the kind of self-trust that doesn't evaporate the second someone's disappointed in you.
$0. Instant PDF download. One day at a time, starting whenever you're ready.
You did the 30-day challenge. You noticed the patterns, wrote the resentment list, sat in the silence. Now what?
The Unshrinking is the sequel your nervous system has been waiting for: a sassy, honest, occasionally uncomfortable 12-chapter workbook that takes you from "I see what's happening" to "I'm changing what happens next." This isn't the gentle boundaries guide. You already have that one. This is the one where we laugh a little, feel the discomfort head-on, and decide to stop shrinking.
Inside, you'll get real language for boundaries vs. walls, the resentment pipeline, the "good girl tax," and the guilt that shows up right on cue every time you try to take up space. You'll work through the relationships where you can't just walk away, the moment people push back, and exactly what to say: five real situations, five real scripts. Every chapter ends in Homeplay: three levels (Beginner, Feeling Brave, Sassy and Ready), so you choose your own pace, no gold stars required.
If you're a woman who's tired of surviving, tired of over-explaining, tired of managing everyone's feelings but your own: this is your next 30 days.
$7. Instant PDF download. Print it, write in it, make it your current bible.!
You could give a TED talk on self-care. You've told your sister to rest. You've told your friend to set the boundary. You've told your kid to drink some water and go outside.
Your own version is a bath you keep meaning to take and a low hum of guilt that you're somehow failing at the one thing that's supposed to be relaxing.
That's not a discipline problem. "Take care of yourself" is a vague instruction, and vague instructions are impossible to succeed at — which means they're very easy to feel bad about. So here's a plan instead. One small thing a day, thirty days, built on the eight types of self-care and modeled after Maslow's hierarchy of needs. No willpower required, and nothing to earn first.
What's inside:
30 daily activities, one per day, each with the reason behind it — because you're more likely to do a thing when you know why it works
All 8 types of self-care: physical, emotional, mental, social, digital, professional, practical, and spiritual
The unsexy ones nobody puts on a self-care list — review your benefits, make a budget, schedule the appointment you've been avoiding since spring. Peace of mind is self-care, even when it isn't cute.
The tender ones too: sit with your feelings for ten minutes without asking why. Look in the mirror and give yourself three compliments out loud, as deeply weird as that will feel.
Day 18 is practicing "no." That placement is on purpose.
Fill-in pages for your gratitude list, your bucket list, and those three compliments
A tip for the socially anxious on reach-out-to-a-friend day, because "just call someone" has never once been useful advice
Three Sassy Meditations linked right in — 2-minute breath awareness, 2-minute grounding, and 6-minute stress relief
A bonus Day 31 to reflect on what actually worked for you, plus an "I'm done, what now?" page so this doesn't fall off a cliff on day 31
A one-page calendar of all 30 days, printable, fridge-ready
Do it in order, or flip to whatever day you need. There's no wrong way to use it and nobody's grading you.
Who it's for: the woman who is fluent in everyone else's needs and vague on her own. Recovering people pleasers, eldest daughters, and anyone who has been waiting to earn her rest.
$0. Instant PDF download. 30 days, 8 types of self-care, and zero requirement to be good at it.
You've written the perfect no in your head. In the shower, in the car, in the three hours after the conversation ended. Then the moment came and you heard yourself say "sure, no problem — what time?"
When you're anxious, your access to reason, problem solving, and language narrows right when you need it most. This guide gives you the words ahead of time so you're not composing and regulating at once.
What's inside:
What a boundary actually is, and what it isn't, with a side-by-side breakdown of control attempts vs. real boundaries
Why "no" feels like a moral failure when you were raised to measure your goodness by everyone else's comfort
What to do with the guilt that shows up anyway, because it will
The script formula: warmth + limit + what you'll do next
Five full scripts for the situations that actually get you — the invite you have no capacity for, the conversation you need to exit, the friend venting when you're maxed out, the "why aren't you answering me," and the topic you can't do today
A sassier version of every script, for when polite isn't the move
Blank lines to rewrite each one in your own words, because a script in someone else's voice never works
A practice plan and where to go next
Who it's for: recovering people pleasers, eldest daughters, and anyone who is fluent in everyone else's needs and a little vague on her own.
$0. Instant PDF download. 5 scripts and a sassy eduction about boundaries.
Real self-care isn't a spa day. It's the practice of returning to yourself on purpose, repeatedly, even when it feels weird, indulgent, or like you don't have time.
The Sassy Self Care Reset is a 14-day, one-small-thing-a-day reset with a printable weekly grid and a daily Sassy Suggestion so you never have to wonder what to do — just show up. No spa budget required. No free afternoon required. Just you, showing up for yourself the way you show up for everyone else.
Week one gets you back into your body and out of your head — sitting in silence, moving, going outside, shaking off stress like an animal would. Week two is about agency: saying no, clearing clutter, writing (and burning) the letter you never sent, naming the one obligation you're doing out of fear instead of want. Do the whole reset twice through and watch what your self-care needs look like once you're actually paying attention.
Some days will feel easy. Some will feel surprisingly emotional. A few will feel pointless until they don't. That's the practice. No perfection required, no catching up if you miss a day — just start where you are and keep going.
$0. Instant PDF download. One small thing a day, two weeks at a time. Four full weeks of personal TLC.
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